The Light Beyond Bereavement Forum Bereavement StoreMovieBlogSympathy Ecards
Kindness in another's trouble, courage in your own...

Go Back   The Light Beyond Bereavement Forums > Loss of a loved one > Loss of a spouse or partner
Register FAQ Members List Calendar Search Today's Posts Mark Forums Read

Reply
 
Thread Tools Display Modes
  #1  
Old November 13th, 2012, 11:07
EllieF EllieF is offline
Junior Member
 
Join Date: Nov 2012
Posts: 7
Default Help

Hi im 22 years old and have just lost my partner of 5 years suddenly. I have a two year old son and im lost. Im functioning for my son and on the surface but i feel like a robot how do i find comfort.??
Reply With Quote
  #2  
Old November 13th, 2012, 11:19
hazelharris hazelharris is offline
Senior Member
 
Join Date: Mar 2012
Posts: 1,144
Default

hi ellie come on here and talk to me whats happened we all here have lost a loved one you can use the thread you have started of private message me i am here for you
hazelxxx
Reply With Quote
  #3  
Old November 13th, 2012, 14:24
kaza kaza is offline
Member
 
Join Date: Jul 2012
Posts: 60
Default

Hi Ellie

Hazel is right talk on the forum, everything that happens is scary and you will go through so many emotions.

But like hazel says we have all lost a dear loved one and we are here to help and listen.

I have found all on this site help me through my stages. I have ranted and raved and no judges us.

Keep strong

Love and prayers
Karen
Reply With Quote
  #4  
Old November 13th, 2012, 18:38
gumek gumek is offline
Senior Member
 
Join Date: Mar 2012
Posts: 746
Default

Hello ellie so very sorry for the sudden passingu of your love. You have come to a place of support where you can say whatever you need to, we all understand and will stand with you. You can let it out, you won't be judged. Once again dear
Ellie so sorry.

Chrissie. Xx
Reply With Quote
  #5  
Old November 13th, 2012, 19:30
EllieF EllieF is offline
Junior Member
 
Join Date: Nov 2012
Posts: 7
Thumbs down

Thank u everyone i just dont no what to do. How to raise my son alone. He was all i ever knew he supported me loved me and was my best friend. Because im so young im so sad i have a long road ahead of me alone.
Reply With Quote
  #6  
Old November 13th, 2012, 19:40
gumek gumek is offline
Senior Member
 
Join Date: Mar 2012
Posts: 746
Default

Hello dear elie, please try not to think of such things fight now, I know it is almost impossible to do. Do you have friends and family close by if you help with tbings
They will want to be there for you. Please come here whenever you need to offload, I wish I could take your pain away love I will remember you in my prayers to be comforted.

Love and hugs.

Xxx chrissie.
Reply With Quote
  #7  
Old November 13th, 2012, 20:01
EllieF EllieF is offline
Junior Member
 
Join Date: Nov 2012
Posts: 7
Default

Thank u chrissie. I have amazing friends and family. I talk to them all the time and see them everyday but i just feel like im floating around waiting for something to happen. Mine and my little baby sons life will never be the same. I worry i wont be enough for my son and that i know i can never be whole again. Everything was just so normal in our happy little bubble and its been burst . Im just zombie like i feel hollow
Reply With Quote
  #8  
Old November 13th, 2012, 20:42
hazelharris hazelharris is offline
Senior Member
 
Join Date: Mar 2012
Posts: 1,144
Default

hi ellie i'm glad that you have help from family and friends you will get through this because your a mum and your son especially at his age needs all your attention on him it's not easy to bring up a child by yourself but it can be done and it's rewarding you most certernly will be enough for your him because you love him and love is the best gift we give our children if we love them the road is easy you say you feel like a zombie thats how we feel when we are in grief for a long time gradually normal feelings come back but in the mean time you have to learn to cope without your love and make your son as happy as you can try to protect him from your sadness
we are here for you love hazelxxx
Reply With Quote
  #9  
Old November 14th, 2012, 04:05
tom-fisherman tom-fisherman is offline
Senior Member
 
Join Date: May 2011
Location: Northwest England
Posts: 534
Default

Shalom in Yeshua EllieF. Welcome to the forum and I am sorry to her of the death of you partner and the way you are feeling right now. Know that I have already said a prayer for you to be comforted.

I am please you have good family/friends around you as these are important. Please share with us his name and what happened to him. Then try not to think to far ahead. Be kind to yourself, you are in a state of shock after all.

You are among friends here who only want to help you so please say what is on you mind, nobody with condemn you regardless of what your say. Be confident in that!

May God bless you
Tom
Reply With Quote
  #10  
Old November 14th, 2012, 05:52
gumek gumek is offline
Senior Member
 
Join Date: Mar 2012
Posts: 746
Default

Hello ellie, yes you are havong all the emotions and the shock it takes time my love I promise that in time you will be able to make new plans for baby and yoursrlf, but this dosent come easy for us to do, you will hear all kinds of helpful advise but also some very stupid things, just ignore them. All of us here know first hand of all the why's, the how's and I am only now afger almost one year starting to accept the changes ahead. I cannot even think or imagine how it is to lose your love so young in years, l was blessed to have my hubby in my life for almost 38 years I'm now almost 60 but now its just me and my cat bani, I was terrified at first you know? Giuls was a gentleman and a loving husband and we cared for and loved one another vety deeplyand tbought we would grow old together so I was so frightened at first, frozen and in shock but it is getting better evety day, yes of course I cry and I will miss him till I see him again when I get called home. I speak to him daily and I don't hear his voice as such but I know that he is watchong over me and is wanting me to be happy and enjoy the rest of my 20years or so Your love is doing the same for you. Tom suggested that maybe to tell us all about your love then we sort of meet him, does that make sense love?
Anyway dear ellie, ee oldies here can maybe like mums and dads, we offer you all our support and love.

Love and hugs

Chrissie. Xxx
Reply With Quote
Reply


Currently Active Users Viewing This Thread: 1 (0 members and 1 guests)
 
Thread Tools
Display Modes

Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

vB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Forum Jump


All times are GMT -5. The time now is 10:29.


Copyright 2017 The Light Beyond. Visit the main site at www.thelightbeyond.com