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Old August 6th, 2014, 16:58
hazelharris hazelharris is offline
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Default when someone is too bruised to be touched

.When Someone is Too Bruised to be Touched

there isn't much one can offer by way of consolation,when someone takes their life especially the young even faith consolation, at a moment like this, when everyone is in shock and the pain is so raw. Few things can so devastate us as the suicide of a loved one, especially of one's own child.There is the horrific shock of losing a loved one so suddenly which, just of itself, can bring us to our knees; but, with suicide, there are other soul-wrenching feelings too, confusion, guilt, second-guessing, the what ifs and religious doubts
amongst all the heartbreaking thoughts that go round and round our minds we can torture ourselves with
Where did we fail this person?
What might we still have done?
What should we have noticed?
What is this person's state with God?
what can we say First of all, that suicide is a disease and the most misunderstood of all sicknesses. It takes a person out of life against his or her will, the emotional equivalent of cancer, a stroke, or a heart attack.
Second, we, those left behind, should not spend undue anxiety second-guessing as to how we might have failed that person, what we should have noticed, and what we might still have done to prevent the suicide it only eats away at our soul of course we would have prevented it if the chance was given but it wasn't Suicide is an illness and, as with any sickness, we can love someone and still not be able to save that person from death.God loved this person too and, like us, could not, this side of eternity, do anything either we are not super humans no one is able to read into the mind of a loved one it was not in our power to be there and prevent it happening
Finally, we shouldn't worry too much about how God meets this person on the other side. God's love, unlike ours, can go through locked doors and touch what will not allow itself to be touched by us.there is no hell and there is no pain like the one suicide inflicts. Nobody who is healthy wants to die and nobody who is healthy wants to burden his or her loved ones with this kind of pain.and that's the point: This is only done when someone isn't healthy and their mind has been overwhelmed by this depressive over powering illness The fact that medication can often prevent suicide should tell us something. Suicide is an illness not a sin.nobody just calmly decides to commit suicide and burden his or her loved ones with that death any more than anyone calmly decides to die of cancer and cause pain.
The victim of suicide (in all but rare cases) is a trapped person, caught up in a fiery, private chaos that has its roots both in his or her emotions and in his or her bio-chemistry Suicide is a desperate attempt to end unendurable pain, akin to one throwing oneself through a window because one's clothing is on fire.
some of us have known victims of suicide and we know too that in almost every case that person was not full of ego, pride, haughtiness, or the desire to hurt someone generally it's the's usually their problems have been magnified they can't cope they are wounded, raw, and too-bruised to have the necessary resiliency needed to deal with life.
and finally we shouldn't worry about how God meets our loved ones who have fallen victim to suicide. God, as Jesus assures us, has a special affection for those of us who are too-bruised and wounded to be touched.God loves all of us and so our loved ones who have fallen victim to suicide are now inside of God's embrace, enjoying a freedom from mental pain they couldn't overcome here and being healed through a touch that they could never quite accept from us they are now healed by Gods grace and now live in everlasting love and peace where we are all united for eternity .

Last edited by hazelharris : August 6th, 2014 at 17:08.
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