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Old July 26th, 2011, 09:46
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Shalom in Yeshua Hayley, thank you for explaining yourself so clearly. You are making sense, you are not a babbling fool and you are certainly not going mad!!

What you ask comes from an understanding of, and faith in scriptures. Now I already know that some who read this may think that I am a religious fool, but that's their choice, suffice it to say that whether you believe in God or not the same end awaits us all. The difference is that I and many believers, don't believe that the death of the body is the end. We believe that the spirit passes into Sheol. Where does this belief come from? Scriptures. Many people sadly form opinions without even reading them. (Maybe they are too busy).

There is a very good explanation of Sheol and what happens when we pass into it in the Visions on Sadhu Sundar Singh. I have put a link here.
Nothing this man said is in conflict with any scriptures.

http://reluctant-messenger.com/sadhu-sundar-singh.htm

With regard to worrying about the inevitable, well there is only two beliefs, life exists after death or it doesn't. Either way we cannot change it. You cannot change anything left behind we just have to trust in others to do whats right by our families. Faith in God however removes that doubt and worry also goes. Faith comes with understanding and knowledge of Scripture.

It has never been my intention to preach in this forum. All I have ever wanted is to help people come to terms with their grief in a gentle and understanding way. I realise that you and others reading this will have many more questions as a result. So I would ask that those questions of faith be sent to me by personal message.

Finally Hayley 'seek and ye shall find, knock and the door will be opened'.
Ask away.

May God bless you
Tom
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Old July 26th, 2011, 18:08
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Hi Tom,

Thank you for that. I do understand totally, and shall be sending you some questions. I am honoured that you will answer me.

I am also sorry that I kind of backed you into a corner there and I hope you will not stop offering your gentle responses to others on the forum.

Your advice has been a cushion for me and I don't want to take that away from others.

Please carry on in the manner in which you started and I will continue with my questions in a more discreet manner.

Love and light

Hayley x
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Old July 26th, 2011, 18:28
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I went to see Dad today and we chatted for hours. It was a really uplifting moment. We looked at Mums Rose garden. The house makes me feel kind of sad as it is Mums cosy home but she isn't there. Like she's on holiday and we are keeping things nice for her return.

Cried one and a half times today. The half was when I pushed the surge backdown only for it to come up again at work! I let it out. It had to go.

It has been a month today.

H x
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Old July 27th, 2011, 05:26
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Shalom in Yeshua Hayley, I am comfortable in my faith and will be more that happy to help you and others, openly or privately.

May God bless you
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Old July 28th, 2011, 03:08
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Today is Mums birthday. Happy Birthday Mum.

Today my heart has sunk again.

Hx
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Old August 1st, 2011, 12:24
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I have started to reconnect with all my family which is very big! I had lost contact or drifted and so.....one good thing has happened.......we have all realised how life can be taken from us. It is so important for us to have family and be together, be there for one another and we easily lose sight of this. I have rediscovered what is important. It has been a wake up call. I would rather Mum was here but it's almost as if this was OUR lesson. A hard one but one to learn from.

H x

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Old August 1st, 2011, 17:58
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I still can't believe it! I have to say this NOW. I am ok, but I cannot believe it.

Mums dead yes yes yes I know!!!!!!! But something in my head keeps saying WHAT????!! what is this? Why am I doing that! I know she is dead. So why am I saying this ALL of the time?


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Old August 5th, 2011, 17:56
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I am still the same. I can't accept it. It's weird, it doesn't feel real.

Is anyone else like this. Please speak to me someone.

H x
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Old August 5th, 2011, 19:28
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Hayley I feel your pain my sister from another miser, I try my hardest, but I literally feel like a shell of the person I used to be, whenever I try and socialise with my mates, I feel like I have to really really try and act normal... even though I am normal, I don't know why I feel this, I only do because noone else knows how it feels and I find myself asking why the fu*k should I try and act like everything is ok when its not? I'm only 22 and I lost my mum out the blue, I've had to matture over night and never had the time to really accept the grief.... Grrrr its a headf*ck. By the way I hate swearing, very ungentleman like, this is my frustration coming through, I'm a lovely young man really, if you ever want to talk to someone, please by all means message me, the only reason i joined this site is i really struggle with talking about what I have been through and feel as though people don't understand, you can talk to me without any worries, I'm a great listener.

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Old August 6th, 2011, 05:25
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Sorry I was a bit drunk when i wrote that, but yeah you get the jist
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