My heart goes out to both of you who have shared your stories. I can't understand how a doctor or anyone else can be clinical or cold about a miscarriage. I guess some people don't understand how real that child is to you as soon as you realize you're carrying it. My mother had a miscarriage before she had my youngest brother and it was a grieving process for our entire family, even for the children because we had already begun to form a relationship with this new sibling in the form of expectations. I was lucky enough to carry my son to term, but when I began having difficulties with my pregnancy all I could think of was what it must have felt like for my mother when she lost that baby. I know that if I had lost my son during my pregnancy, it would have been just as painful and just as real a loss as it would be were I to lose him now.