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Old October 6th, 2009, 08:43
Aquarius Aquarius is offline
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Default Not too much grieving, please - find out why.


Whenever a loved one moves into a different life-state, we are involved in a major transformation whose final result is a complete re-birth. One of the great laws of life decrees that before anything new can come into being, something old must die; in this case some outdated part of us. The more we cling on to that which is old and outworn in our lives, the greater the birth pain and the more difficult and prolonged our labour shall be. How easily any kind of re-birth takes place depends entirely on the degree of our willingness to lovingly and understandingly let go of whatever is waiting to be shed.

No matter how we react to circumstances, especially when they are beyond our own control, it is necessary to let go of that which has been, as that makes room for something new and improved to enter our life. As this applies to all aspects of life, before a new self can be born, the old one has to die. Life relentlessly moves forward. It has got to be lived forward; there is no other way. Our loved one’s physical body died, so that their indwelling spirit and soul could go home to and be re-born to the other dimension of life that is our true home.

Why then do we find it so hard to let go and let them go in peace, so that we too can get on with our own life again? No matter in what manner a loved one passes on, a vital part for those left behind is the grieving process, because this gives us access to the comfort and the healing powers of the Angels. Recognising and accepting the necessity for the departure of a loved one from this plane of life, helps us to let go of the old conditions in our lives that have outlived their usefulness, to make room for that which is waiting to be born.

A great deal happens to us when we leave our physical bodies behind and move into the world of spirit. That is why it is essential at such times that those left behind take charge of their emotions. Should your friends call you hard, let them. They do not understand, but you know better. Whenever your feelings are in danger of giving way to grief and hysteria, remind yourself that for a while your loved one needs to be left in peace and as undisturbed as possible, because they are passing through a highly critical time. It is helpful to know that unrestrained grief has a bad effect on the newly arrived soul in the world of spirit, and that you are controlling your emotions for them and out of love for them.

When the soul is allowed to pass through the portal of its physical death into our other world, accompanied by love, light and trust that God and the Angels are taking good care of our loved one, we do our share of helping not only its new life in the beyond, but also when its time for returning to the Earth plane has come. At each moment of departure from our present existence, every soul passes through some vital experiences during its re-entry into the world of light. Over-intense grieving by those left behind can rob it of the right perception for this part of its journey.

Almost immediately the soul is released from its physical body, but before its vision of the other world opens, it sees pictures of a chain of events from its past life. If the soul is receptive and undisturbed, they can bestow upon it a great power and strength for its future life in the spheres it now finds itself in. If we are to make wise decisions with regard to our future lifetimes, which eventually have to be made by all of us, it is essential that during the time of our departure we should be as undisturbed as possible.

When the distress of our loves ones does not get in the way of our perception of the pictures that are shown to us, we more easily absorb the memories, emotions and feelings they awake. This is important because during these precious moments, we encounter the souls of those we have hurt and wounded, and any pain we have inflicted upon them is actually felt by us. The law of Karma sees to it that as we sow, so we shall reap, and that any pain we once caused others must eventually also be experienced by us.

From ‘Letter to a Friend’

With love and light,
Our world is bound in darkness, until we shine the light;
You, with your own vision – and I, with my insight.

Author of ‘The Random Jottings of a Stargazer’
And the Astro Files
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