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October 30th, 2009, 14:18
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Struggling to cope
Hi,
I lost my cat yesterday morning, she was killed on the road outside our house. I don't think I'll ever forget picking her up and seeing her terrible injuries. I'm a paramedic and have seen some traumatic sights over the years but I'm really struggling to cope just now. Our cat was the baby of the family and we all loved her dearly, she had such a gentle nature and made us all smile with her antics. I just can't believe she's gone. I'm now terrified our other cat will suffer the same fate. I know she is much more reluctant to go outside but I'm still really worried. I just can't see how to get over the feelings of loss. Any advice greatly appreciated. Kaz 
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November 3rd, 2009, 06:52
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hi kaz, sorry to hear about your loss, i know how you are feeling, i lost my cat a couple of months ago and i was heart broken, it does get easier. i found burying her in my garden so she is always close and im sure shes still in the house doing her thing in spirit, as for your fear for your other cat suffering the same fate, i would advice keeping her/him in the house, i have had cats all my life and they have always been house cats, some from kittens and two from rescue centers that previously were outdoor cats and they adapted great, ive read all the articles about the pros and cons of keeping cats indoors and spoken to numerous vets and im assured indoor cats have a long and happy life, all mine are happy and content. they have run of the garden suppervised too. give it a try..... try to think about the fun times and all the funny things your cat used to do, dont think about the accident. cats bring us so much joy and love to our lives so think about what she/he bought to you, enjoy those memories xxxxx thnking of you xxx
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November 9th, 2009, 05:29
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Hi Kaz, I'm sorry to hear that you've lost your cat. I lost my dog Jake last year. His was taken quickly in an accident too. He passed in front of me while I was helpless to do anything, so I know how it feels to lose a dear pet suddenly. It does get easier to bear as you come to terms with their loss and work through your grief. I know its hard but try to focus on her life and the time you spent with her. You say that she had terrible injuries, perhaps this meant that her passing was quick? and that she did not suffer. It helped me to think of Jake's passing in this way. It was tragic and terrible for me but I think for Jake it was very quick and so there was very little suffering. Shortly after he went I put together a photo album and a video album in tribute to him, this helped me focus on the good times. His death was a brief moment in the extraordinary life of my precious dog and thats the important thing to remember...the time you had while they were alive.
I personally believe when your time comes, its time to go. If this is the case, then each and every one of us has our own individual way in which we will cross over. Your other cat is no more likely to go the same way. There is nothing you can do do prevent someone's death and your other cat will go when its time. She may even go on to be the oldest cat in the world. who can tell. Maybe it would be best to cherish the times you have together now. Taking her freedom away may give you some peace of mind but would it really be fair? Judging by how much you love you pets, I don't think you'd be happy doing that. Sometimes I ask my Jake for a little sign to show me he's ok. I have always got it. May be worth a try? Take care of yourself and remember the good times x
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November 15th, 2009, 04:57
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hi
i've only just joined this forum because i am at a total loss. had to put my 16 year old dog down yesterday and i'm in a terrible mess. any help as how to get through this would be so appreciated. just want the pain to end. regards, sharon x
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November 16th, 2009, 07:11
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Sharon, This is also my first post. You are not alone in your heartbreak. I too had to have my beloved, loving dog, Holly, heped on her way painlessly on Saturday, just like yourself. Holly was 9. She was diagonosed with a large lung tumour which was a terrible shock to take. She started to show signs of illness about a month ago but it had taken a couple of weeks to get full diagonis. I can only sympathise with you as you had your wonderful dog for 7 years longer. I spent the weekend in pieces and still feel in an emotional mess now, but what I have to take heart with is Holly was ready to say goodbye to me, my wife and our two young children. On Saturday morning, she walked into the garden (which she adored) and, even in the wind and rain, sat down on the lawn, looked around, then laid down; it looked like she was actually smiling in her own way. She asked us to help her. I console myself by knowing it was the kindest possible thing we could do for Holly. To let her go on would have been selfish to her and her illness would only have gotten worse. 2 hours later, she passed on in my car lying in her bed in an instantaneous, painless and wholly dignified manner. She died with her head in my hands and I was the last thing she saw as she drifted away into Heaven. Holly was buried in our garden, as she would have wanted it, with a poppy from my daughter, her bone and her favourite 2 toys; a ball and her chewing rope. She was draped in her favourite blanket. The pain is almost unbearable, but I know she is at peace with the World now. We miss her dearly and she was a loyal and loving friend to us all for 9 years. She watched our children grow from birth and sat by their cots whenever they were sleeping. Sharon, I understand what you and countless others are feeling, but you will always have your pet in your heart. Nothing can take that away. Thank you for reading; this is my way of helping to rationalise an emotional rollercoaster. And Holly, wherever you are, you will always be a cherished and beautiful member of our family. Sleep peacefully, my darling friend. Love always to you, from your Daddy.
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November 17th, 2009, 14:22
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April 29th, 2010, 02:35
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Im so sorry my mums cat passed too this morning im grief stricken
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July 2nd, 2010, 04:57
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Hiya, Maybe starting a new post would generate more response to your request for help. People won't know you have posted here as this is the reply section of someone else's post 
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