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Old November 29th, 2007, 10:17
jnjsarauer jnjsarauer is offline
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Most of my friends and family still wear black to funerals and visitations. I wear dark colors, but do not feel it is necessary to wear black. Do you feel it is inappropriate to wear any color other than black to a funeral?
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Old December 1st, 2007, 17:46
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When I went to a couple of funerals when I was younger, I wore all black. When my grandpa died a month ago, we were told to wear what he saw us in most of the time. So I wore a black Jagermiester T-shirt and black jeans. It was still all black, but something I wore anyway. My grandpa was buried in his blue Dickie's mechanic uniform, so it only fit that we all wear what we were comfortable in too.
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Old December 4th, 2007, 11:12
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I think that is a great idea to wear what he would normally see you in. I tend to wear muted colors but not necessarily black all the time.
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Old December 4th, 2007, 11:30
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i wore black slacks and a dark plum top to my mom's funeral. She would have hated it if i'd worn all black.

i usually wear dark colors, but i don't feel like i must wear black.
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Old January 5th, 2008, 16:03
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I think it's okay to wear any color you wish, however, keep it tasteful if you are not told to wear somehing casual.
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Old February 25th, 2008, 10:01
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I tend to wear a black suit and a subdued tie.

That's a good idea about wearing what the deceased was used to seeing you in.
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Old March 6th, 2008, 08:56
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You don't need to wear black any more, but keep it on the conservative side. Consider the others in attendance and not just the deceased. You might have been "blue jean buddies" with him, but his grieving mother will not see it this way. The obituary will give you clues about what the "mood" will be --- if its at a funeral home, go conservative. If its an irish wake at your old hang-out, well.... you get the idea.
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Old March 14th, 2008, 11:01
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My mum asked that people not wear all black at my dads funeral but i felt quite awkward wearing anything colourful. I wore charcoal trousers, a black top and my long charcoal grey overcoat but to sort of compensate what i wore i carried 3 gorgeous sunflowers tied with sort of rafia straw and left them at his graveside.

3 sunflowers as he had 3 daughters x
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Old March 17th, 2008, 12:32
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I think it really depends on the family. I have been to funerals where everyone was in black. I have been to funerals where a lot of the family was dressed in "loud" colors. I've even been to a funeral where everyone showed up in wranglers or overalls and went right back to the fields and ranches afterwords.

If you're unsure what to wear to an upcoming funeral I've always found asking someone who is a close family friend best. Then I don't bother thegrieving family with it, but can still find out what the family deems appropriate.
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Old July 16th, 2009, 13:31
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At my Grandmothers and Uncles funerals in 2003 and 2006 respectively, I wore a suit from work which was black. At Dads funeral this week I wore black trousers, a white shirt and dark plum jacket.

We didn't discuss a dress code before the event, everyone came in either their normal clothes (muted ones though) or smart work type clothes.
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